Notes to staci
How I Got My Wife to Stop Nagging Me.
For the last 9 months, I’ve been writing a handwritten love note to my wife every day.
To be honest, I don’t think she’s changed at all, but I sure have.
Here’s the surprising things I’ve learned from writing to her daily.
- She’s less annoying People annoy us. My wife has amazingly gotten less annoying since I’ve started writing her how much I love her. The truth: I’m less judgy when I start the day with gratitude towards her.
- She’s more kind She doesn’t get mad at me as much as she used to. The Truth: When I start the day with gratitude, it’s easier for her to be kind to me, too.
- She stopped nagging me My wife has totally stopped nagging me. The truth: thinking and writing about my gratitude towards her every day helps me not be bothered by the things that used to get under my skin.
- She doesn’t get mad anymore Look, I’ve done some stupid things in the last six months that I’d be amazed if she ever forgave me for. The Truth: Because I’m more honest, she’s been more truthful with me, too. That means we actually get upset with each other more often, but we’re coming from a different place.
- She forgives me when I mess up. If you’re anything like me, you’ve apologized when you don’t really mean it. You’ve been sorry for getting caught. The Truth: Now, I’m actually sorry for doing the dumb thing.
- Better intimacy. Well, that too. But that’s not for the internet!
Me writing to her probably hasn’t changed her at all, but it sure has changed me.
Give it a try yourself, for the next 9 months, and see what happens.
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